Ever Evolving

Hey there! It's been a minute since our last post. Ok, maybe 5. Ashley and I decided we would open our home, and license, to include one more child. That way we could do short to long term fostering in cases where the courts are trying to get cases figured out. We did not do this with the sole intention to adopt, rather to help more children by having them in our loving, caring home as long as they need to be. Whether that's for a week, a month, a year or a lifetime.

Well, earlier this month we received a call about a little that needed a home. Last week we picked up a beautiful 2-week-old bundle of joy. And hair. Man, this kid has a lot of hair.

We have no idea what the outcome will be or how long she will be with us, but that doesn't matter. We are going to love her like we made her and give her the best life we can while she's here.

That's it for now. Thanks for being part of our Evolution.

Super Evolved

Things have been crazy around here the last several months and we haven't had the time or energy to write. For that, we apologize. We will make up for it now, with this super long post.

When we left off, we had told you that the date was set for our little girl's adoption. It went off without a hitch, mostly, and she has legally been our daughter since October 27th. I say mostly because she was crying when we tried to take pictures after the ceremony.

Everything has been great with her since day one. She is such an amazing little girl. She still makes me laugh every day and has a huge heart. She really is the sweetest little girl I've ever seen.

Her vocabulary continues to grow and, as it does, so does her desire to talk. So she does. Constantly. Seriously though, we love that she continues to absorb words and information. She is memorizing song lyrics from the radio now and will sing along from her car seat. We recently moved her to a big girl bed and she stays in bed every night. The only thing we are struggling with is potty training. If you want to follow her adorable journey through life, you can search #KJSharp on a variety of social media sites.

Now for our baby boy. I call him baby boy because he just turned one a couple months ago, but he's a hulk of a child.  He weighs a healthy 26 lbs and is almost as tall as his sister. His feet are wide so finding shoes is difficult and his head is almost big enough to wear my gigantic hats. Not really, but it is the 99th percentile. 

Like his sister, he is very smart and has an ever-expanding vocabulary. He is really a younger, male version of her. They can run around and play together all day. "Sissy" makes him food in her play kitchen then feeds it to him. They "tackle" each other and roll around on the floor laughing. Neither of them has an issue sharing toys, drinks or food with the other.

"Buddy" does have a medical issue though. It's nothing major and doesn't hurt him but it is a big nuisance. For all of us. I won't bore you with all the medical jargon but he basically has a group of blood vessels on his scalp that  will rupture and bleed profusely. We were finally able to get him in to see a dermatologist at UCSF this week and found out it has to be removed by a plastic surgeon. So now we just have to wait for them to call us and then we have to get a court order to have the procedure done. It's an outpatient procedure so no hospital stay will be required but since he's a foster child we still have to wait for the court order. The only things that bother little man are us cleaning him up and him having to wear band aids or dressing on his head.

As far as the status of his permanent placement goes, that's an even bigger mess. When we were asked if we would take him into our home, we immediately said yes. Bio mom was being offered reunification services and we took him in while she went to rehab and tried to get her life straight. With her track record, we didn't think she'd be able to stay clean. She has now been drug free for over a year and is really trying to get him back. While Ash and I are proud of her and her ability to stay clean for this long, she is really still not in a position, nor does she have any idea what it takes, to raise a child. 

We were told by the social worker that she is doing "enough" to get him back. She is living in a homeless shelter and is basically unemployable. That's "enough."

We went to court last week for what we expected to be the day they decided to reunify. However, we have learned that she was taking him around people he's not supposed to be around. The attorney for CPS has also learned of some issues she has and decisions she's made that he and the judge deemed serious enough to continue the case for ten more weeks. Unfortunately, since the case is open we can't go into too much detail, but we can tell you that we will do whatever we can to make sure that the outcome is in the best interest of this child. Sometimes it feels like we're the only ones looking out for him. We got into fostering to help children in any way we can. We will continue to do so. Even if that means fighting to get laws changed.

So the super update is done. Now you just have to wait a few months until the next post. Or a few minutes...

Date With Destiny

We have a date. A court date. I know that might sound like a bad thing, but it's really the greatest thing we can think of at the moment. 

On October 27th we will be going to court to finalize the adoption of our daughter! That's right! In one week, the wait will be over. It has been a long process, but every second has been well worth it. 

I know we have said it before, but Ash and I feel that these kids were meant to be ours. They both have amazing personalities that fit in perfectly with both sides of our family. 

We can't even begin to explain how happy we are to be raising these two wonderful children and with the new chapter beginning, we can't wait to see what's next in the Sharp Evolution!

Halfway Home

Well, it's a good thing we made a resolution to write more. Like all great resolutions, the intent was there, but time hasn't been. So here we go!

Our baby boy turned six months old a week ago. He's getting big really fast. He's only about 10 pounds lighter than our daughter, who will be two early next month. He is a very happy baby with a smile that will melt your heart. One of the greatest feelings in the world is coming home from work to three people that are genuinely excited to see me. The little guy's face lights up, our daughter screams "Daddy" at the top of her lungs and Ash is excited to have a tag team partner in what was previously a handicap match.

We recently received some fantastic news from our daughter's social worker. They were waiting on some out of state home studies to be completed for some of her paternal family members. That state decided to discontinue assessing said relatives and closed the case. That was the final hurdle in our daughter's case.

The adoption is now cleared for finalization and will be completed in October! She will legally be our daughter in a couple short months! We are extremely excited and can't wait to make everything official. Our love for her won't change at all with the adoption being finalized. We have loved her like she was our biological child since the day we brought her home. Just as we have with her brother. She already calls us mama and daddy so that won't change.

What will change is that our Facebook friends will be inundated with pictures of our beautiful daughter. We have wanted to post pictures the whole time but are not allowed to do so. Her name will change. Yep, there will be another Sharp running around out there.

And so goes our evolution. The Sharp Evolution. Talk to you all soon...ish.

Sister Act

"Change in all things is sweet." ~ Aristotle

Last Tuesday, I got a personal call at work. It was Ashley. She asked if I could talk for a minute and I immediately thought something was wrong. I asked if I could call her back because I was with a customer. As soon as I was done I rushed outside to call her.

Ash said she got a phone call from our daughter's social worker. The social worker told her that our daughter's bio mom had given birth to a baby boy on February 5 and they wanted to know if we were interested in fostering with potential adoption. We, of course, said yes and they set up a meeting for the next day to discuss placement. At the end of the meeting, which was attended by various people involved in both kids' cases, it was decided that baby boy would be placed with us!

Our house was only licensed for one foster child at that point so we had to set up a visit for an annual inspection and capacity change. That was set up for yesterday and capacity change was granted. Once we were licensed for two foster kids, Ash called baby boy's social worker to arrange a transfer from his satellite home to our home. Yesterday at 4:30 we met him, signed the paperwork and brought him home!

That's right! Our little girl is now a big sister! And she's great at it! She likes to kiss him and pat him and rub his head. The little guy is very cute and very little. He is two weeks old now and weighs 6 pounds, 14 ounces. He's about 20" long. That's a big change from when we brought our little girl home. She was already 10 months old. We didn't have to swaddle her or burp her or even hold her bottle while she ate. It's all new and all awesome!

So yeah, we went from having no kids to having two under two in less than eight months. To make things even crazier, we got permission to take them both out of state for an upcoming vacation we had planned. Two babies on a plane. I can almost guarantee that if our flight isn't full nobody will be sitting in that third seat.

Our little family is evolving faster than we expected and we couldn't be happier!

New Year's Evolution

Hello, readers. Sorry for the long delay between posts. Our New Year's resolution is to get better at keeping you all up to date on the Sharp Evolution. Speaking of the new year, we hope you all enjoyed your holidays. Anyway, enough with the chit chat. There's a lot to catch you up on, so let's get started.

As you already know, our little girl has been living with us since July 1. Ash immediately took some time off to bond and I was able to take some, as well. At the end of August, we threw her her first birthday party. It was such an amazing day. She had a great time with everyone who showed up and destroyed the smash cake Ashley made for her. She probably ate 2/3 of the thing. Yep, that's my kid. Cake...the greatest food ever invented.

When I returned to work in mid-October, we enrolled the kiddo in daycare. We thought she might be a little timid but she went in there and said bye to me like a champ. Of course, shortly after she started daycare, she got a cold. We expected this, though, as it's actually pretty common. She has her days when she cries when we drop her off, but she's usually excited to go play with her friends.

In our last update I mentioned that the Termination Of Parental Rights hearing was being sent to trial because both biological parents contested the termination. The trial was set for the end of October, but was delayed again. This time until the middle of December. On the advice of the baby's social worker, we hadn't been attending any of the court proceedings. Ash and I talked about possibly attending the trial in December and decided it would be a good idea.

On December 18th we went to the courthouse and found the area we needed to be in. We nervously sat on a bench while we waited for our case to be called. Once the case was called, we made our way in to the courtroom and sat in the gallery to watch the trial. It was short. The bio dad was there, but no bio mom. The judge went through the necessary procedures and then explained that, at this point, there has been nothing done by the bio parents to warrant them keeping their parental rights. PARENTAL RIGHTS WERE OFFICIALLY AND LEGALLY TERMINATED!!!

Ash and I were both fighting tears in the courtroom. I also tend to laugh when I get emotional so I was literally biting my tongue to keep from doing so while the judge was delivering his ruling. Outside of the courtroom, while speaking with the baby's social worker and attorney, we couldn't hold it in anymore. We were just so elated that one of the final obstacles was out of the way. It was such a great feeling! I can't even begin to describe it.

There is now a short period of time during which the bio parents can appeal the ruling. We have been told not to worry about that though, so we aren't. Once that time period passes, we will begin the final stage of the adoption process!

Let's fast forward a few days. To December 24th. Our first Christmas Eve with a child. This is the day my family has their get together. We got there a little after 6 p.m. and everyone was excited to have the new addition there for the party. We have an awesome tradition of opening presents at midnight. Ash and I decided that we'd try to wake the kid up at gift time since her normal bedtime is 8. We didn't have to do that. She somehow managed to stay up the entire time. She was having a lot of fun running around being the center of attention. We said our goodbyes after gifts and thought she would fall asleep in the car. Wrong! She ended up going to bed around 1 a.m.

Christmas morning, we always head to Ash's parents house for gifts with them and her sister. We usually try to get there by 8 but the baby didn't wake up until then. She was worn out from the night before. So we got her out of her crib and took her into the living room to see what Santa left for her. She was groggy at first and still doesn't understand the concept of Santa so it took a minute to see what we were waiting for.

Once she saw the rocking pony, Sophia the First chair and giant stuffed animals under the tree, her face lit up in pure joy. It was the greatest thing I've ever seen. She has a cute little smirk that she breaks out before the full smile hits and it makes it even better. We headed over to see Grammy, Pa and Auntie and she got to tear into a lot more presents. We spent Christmas day with Ash's family and my mom and her fiancé. The kidlet got to spend the spend the day with the people who love her most and we all had a wonderful day. To be honest, it was the best Christmas of my life.

So now, as we wait for the next step, we begin a new year with the same goal in mind. To adopt this beautiful little girl and continue to give her a life full of love, happiness and stability. And to continue the Sharp Evolution.

Pause...

So, the termination of parental rights hearing was this morning. We were hoping for a quick process but we hit a little snag. Both biological parents have contested the termination.

"What does that mean?" you ask. It means there will be a trial so they can each plead their case. They have to prove that they are able to take care of themselves and the baby. 

We aren't too concerned, though. It's just a minor delay. The trial is set for the end of October. For now, we just continue loving her and giving her a great home and family.